Infertility sucks. That is about the only “nice” way to describe infertility. Dave & I dealt with it for two years exactly and the pain of not knowing if we were going to be one of the blessed who are granted children was really hard. A friend of ours wrote a blog entry a few days back about her plight with infertility (see Maria’s Blog). She asks some hard questions and I’m not particularly sure there is an answer to any of them.
Folks she meets probably tell her to keep praying, keep trying, give her advice that worked for themselves, tell her that adoption is an option, maybe God has other plans for her life, “it will happen” or she should just relax. Let me just say this, those responses really are stinkers. I’m not even sure there is a good response for someone speaking of infertility difficulties. Listening is maybe the only good response.
Having children just seems like such an easy thing for so many people. And let me tell you, when you are dealing with infertility a person can get pretty judgmental about the gals that seem to get pregnant just looking at a fellow. Speaking as one who has been there, other women’s undesired pregnancies are really tough on the infertile. My personal favorite was to overhear a conversation where a pregnant gal is complaining about being pregnant again and how annoying her other children are. I know people who would give their left arm just to have the privileged to be parent to one of those lady’s “rotten” kiddos.
This blog entry doesn’t really have an end purpose, I just read Maria’s blog entry, felt her pain and can tell her that we will continue to pray for she and Ed and listen when she needs to vent, because infertility sucks!
Dear Andrea,
Thank you so much for this! I know you understand and you’ve been through it too. You know exactly how I feel! Thank you!
As you may know, I love to pray the rosary. I have decided to pray for you and other pregnant friends (some online and some offline), their families, their marriages, and all of their needs and intentions in my daily rosary. It’s my gift to you in this new year of 2009. I really want to help other Mothers and Mothers to be in some small way. I am also going to offer up all suffering that may come my way this year for you all to have good and healthy pregnancies, safe and sound deliveries, and healthy babies! I really want to do this for you all!
I hope this is okay to you and you don’t mind? Praying for you all will help me too, you know! I really love praying and helping others!
Thank you so much again Andrea, for the encouragement, and also for the prayers!
P.S. I would really LOVE to meet you and Angela someday! That would be so much fun! We could take photos and maybe scrapbook too? 🙂
May God Bless you, your unborn baby, and your family!
Love,
Maria Therese 🙂
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P.S. Of course I will be praying for Chris, Angela, Benjamin, and their unborn baby too!
Maria Therese
Maria, you are very welcome. I read your blog entry and felt like writing something myself. Angela and I REALLY, REALLY appreciate your prayers. You sound like you’ve got a really healthy plan for keeping your spirits up praying for other women’s pregnancies and offering up your own sufferings. That takes a good, strong woman to do those things. Your desires to become a mother will continue to be in our prayers as well.
We really should get together sometime…that would be fun. Maybe after the maple sugaring season is over in late March we can try to plan something.